A delightful human being: Kevin Lee Jacobs

I have followed the website of Kevin Lee Jacobs of “A Garden for the House” at agardenforthehouse.com for many years now. I believe I initially found his site when looking for particular tips related to planting something in the yard. I found information there shared in such a personal, down-to-earth and delightfully witty way. I think the latter is what really hooked me because I loved the light, witty humor in his posts and it made me feel so good.  Over the years that is exactly what this man (who has no idea who I am or that I exist) has added to my life unknowingly. A light in the darkness sometimes (like during the recent pandemic time that we’ve all been going through), a way of communicating that truly makes me and many others feel like we’re having a fun, pleasant visit with an old friend while reading one of his posts. He also often posts videos showing the exact steps involved in doing something (like with recipes) making it seem simple and always throwing in some great humor along the way that makes me laugh and always adds a sense of fun. He has a way of warming the heart. I appreciate this about him so much and how he so freely shares of himself, while at the same time sharing really useful tips on so many different topics….planting and gardening, cooking and recipes, house renovations, decorating and nice little touches for the home that add warmth, love and creativity. I’m sure I’ve only seen a tiny portion of all that’s available on his site.

My point here, in addition to sharing a favorite site of mine for good tips on various things, in my case especially related to gardening and cooking,  is that he is a person that I know has added such fun, delight, warmth, sincerity and caring to so many lives. I see this all the time in the comments his readers leave. So many feel as if he is a “friend” who they look forward to hearing from again and who really brightens their day and their life when his next weekly update comes out, usually every Sunday I believe.

I just wanted to mention how much I appreciate people like this. Real people. Who give of themselves and share openly as they are living the life they love living, and brightening and giving hope to many other lives in the process. Truly a gift.

Thank you, Kevin Lee Jacobs.


My friend, the Mockingbird

I’m enjoying listening to a Mockingbird in my yard so much. It’s going through it’s repertoire right now as I’m typing this. It makes me feel so good to hear it and gives me a sense of well-being. Like all is right with the world while it’s singing ….. and that’s a bold statement to make right now in this world.  It visits almost daily and I miss it if I don’t hear it for a day or two. I actually wasn’t familiar with what a Mockingbird was until I recently did a search online to try to identify what bird might be singing so beautifully in the yard every day. I just assumed Mockingbirds, from the name given to them, wouldn’t be very pleasant-sounding birds having “mock” in there. Without ever really thinking about it, I just assumed it may only make annoying sounds. I’m so pleased to have this visitor to my yard. What a huge difference a little visitor like that can make in someone’s day and someone’s life if they delight in it like I do.

All I wanna do is…..

……propagate. Isn’t that what Cheryl Crow says? Oh yeah, it’s “All I wanna do is have some fun.”  Same thing. For me, anyway.

I’m enjoying propagating all different kinds of plants so much and learning about the process, what works and what doesn’t, as I learn more about the plants themselves in the process. It’s all I think about these days, propagation experiments and the amazing, wondrous process of composting, and making compost for my own use. Both vermicomposting and “regular” composting (the old standard method). I can’t get enough of these things. I want to do more, more, more. It truly is like this has a life of it’s own within me. I even lay awake many nights filled with an energy, a drive, that is indescribable at the level that I feel it, and that is really when it seems to have a life of its own. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not one bit bothersome. It’s wonderful, this aliveness. And it’s very real.

Weird?? I don’t care.

I think this has always been in me. My earliest memories in life include always feeling a great appreciation for and connection to nature. Being in my own backyard as a child in a residential neighborhood, I was always extremely aware of the plant life around me, the butterflies, ladybugs and caterpillars I’d see in the yard all the time, the beautiful sunshine. It all gave me a pleasant feeling of well-being and appreciation. I can remember the exact way I’d feel to this day. I would also feel concern for plants, anything living, in the back and front yard, and loved to go around watering all the plants. One of my favorite things to do in my alone-time outdoors as a child. I really didn’t have any reason to feel concerned about the plants, I must add, because my dad loved them just as much and always tended to them. They weren’t neglected. It was just a way that I could connect with them, I guess.

When I started school and was first learning to read I have memories of those books being about kids living on a farm and farmlife. I wanted to live on a farm. I thought every little girl must want that, but now realize that isn’t every little girl’s dream at all.  I still want to live on a farm, by the way. All of my favorite memories in life that stand out in my mind, or just pop into my mind unexpectedly at times, have the same background theme about them of being outdoors in the sunshine with a feeling of nature around me. 

It’s as if I belong there.


A surprising realization since my sister left this earth

Since my sister passed away five months ago, I am experiencing something today that I hadn’t really expected to feel. I do so miss being able to see her, laugh with her and talk about life. But I was thinking today that I still feel more like I have her with me than I thought I would. Her presence was so loving and heartfelt to me, maybe that’s why I can still feel as if she’s with me in some wonderful way.                                     

While we still have our loved ones here with us, it can be so nice and satisfying spending time with them and being “in the moment” with them. There is nothing like that. Just a thought — once that present moment passes and time moves on, what are we left with? We are left with the memory of that moment and that experience. Even while the person is still here in this world, that moment has passed. If it was meaningful to us and we felt a connection with that person, it seems there’s something more that we take with us from it, and are able to keep alive within us. 

While my sister was here, her presence touched me at the spirit level in such a meaningful, comforting, fun and delightful way. It has only been five months since she left, and I will always miss her, but it has occurred to me that in a way I can still feel her, hear her, and sense her more than I had imagined I’d be able to. Not like a crazy person :-), but by being able to imagine her presence and the aliveness of her spirit even “in the moments” now, as I’m doing things and sense our connectedness. What she shared with me, the time we shared together, is a part of me. 

I feel such thankfulness and joy as I realize this. I’m so thankful for her life here, for all she managed to live through, how she taught others so much by the way she lived her life and by her openness in sharing all she learned along the way, I’m thankful for the way she gave me an example of how you can live this life and still find joy in it. She also showed me by her life that pain is real. It is a part of life and it is not something that you have to pretend doesn’t exist. I saw how in such a real way she acknowledged pain, both in herself and in this world, and acknowledged beauty, joy and love just as much. Both exist. Both are part of our human experience. 

Yes, her physical body is gone from this world, and I will always miss being able to be with her in that way while here on this earth, seeing her right before my eyes in the present moment and interacting with her fresh perspectives. But I am left with the gift of her spirit which she lovingly shared with me. She planted seeds of love, hope, belief in myself within me that will continue to grow as I continue to nurture them. Her presence was healing to me. Her love touched my heart and soul starting at a young age and into adulthood. That is not something that goes away. That is something that holds life and continues to grow. It is alive deep within me, still helping me, healing me, and showing me the joy in life. And it is infused with her love and her presence.